a man who wants you to change is in need of that change in himself.
drop any part of yourself for a man and be sure that man is going to drop you.
change for a man and that man will change towards you.
be who you be and let the world bring you the man who is worthy of you.
Change to better you for your own sake, for the sake of your next life. There is no good in pleasing people. Please God. He will be pleased at your good. People will not. It will frighten them and make them question their goodness. They will hate you for inspiring them because being ignorant is more fun than being full of goodness. The goodness will last. The fun will not.